5 things to stop before you get to college
Sorry to be a downer but let me just say, high school doesn’t matter as much as it feels like it does. Once you graduate, your entire world shifts and you have so much more freedom and responsibilities cause when you’re in high school… most of the time you’re an idiot. Sorry not sorry, it’s the truth. We all need high school to learn from our mistakes and grow so that we can become who we are in college. With that, here are some things you need to let go of when you get your diploma and before you step foot on your college campus:
1. Stop surrounding yourself with awful/selfish people
In high school, most of the people are pretty fake and yeah, that’s disappointing, but I mean no one knows who they are or what they want so just cut them some slack and don’t keep those grudges in your heart. However, when you leave it’s important to only stick to people who are there for you and make you feel like you belong cause you’ll need them for the rest of your life.
2. Stop having a half ass attitude
We’ve all been in that blessed situation where we didn’t study for an exam and we somehow got lucky and passed with an A. I PROMISE you, that will rarely happen in college. Seriously, if you don’t study or put effort into your work, you will most likely fail and have to retake the class and then you’ll feel like a loser so drop the half ass attitude. Also, keep in mind that you or your parents are paying for those classes so don’t skip your class constantly and put in a decent amount of effort into your work.
3. Stop putting others before yourself
This is probably the second most important advice to take away from this post (number 5 is the key to success). I know you probably don’t know me or you barely know me or whatever but I’m telling you to listen to me now: if you put others’ needs before yourself you will never be happy. It’s easy to be a little bit of a people pleaser in high school what with the fake friends and sharing answers for homework (the tea- you sent them more often than your “friends” did) and it’s even easier to make a habit out of it. So, if you catch yourself doing that after you graduate, snap out of it because that’ll just lead to you feeling stressed and under-appreciated.
4. Stop giving a fuck (excuse my French)
My mind is always busy and thinking and stressing and worrying about every little thing. When I went to college it just got a lot worse because I had so much going on. Speaking of stress, here’s a couple of ways to cope with it that are healthy and will maintain your sanity. One day my director recommended a book to my acting class called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. Honestly, I think you have to read it yourself to get the whole experience but it puts everything in perspective and opens your eyes to what really matters in life. Don’t worry about the things that you can’t control and live in the moment because that’s the only way you can be happy.
5. Stop having a negative mindset
Here it is: the most important thing to take away from this post, if anything at all. A negative mindset can actually ruin your life. I’m an incredibly dramatic person but I truly believe that having a mindset like this will hold you back from what you want, keep you in a dark spot, and ruin your chances to be happy. Even if you forget all the other advice I’ve given you, it doesn’t matter as long as you remember to have a positive mindset so that you can succeed and make your own wishes come true.
I hate seeing the word “stop” so many times in a post so here’s a bonus:
Start appreciating moments when they come and live in them because this is the time of our life where we are tasting freedom. We are free to be impulsive college students who spend too much money on food and go to the beach at night and make mistakes because we’re learning. There are bittersweet moments when everything is amazing and you know it won’t last, so live in them. Laugh, cry, sing, dance, and smile because eventually you’ll have to pay bills and it all goes downhill from there. It doesn’t actually go downhill, I’m just being dramatic, but seriously college is the best 4 years of your life so appreciate it, be happy, and then chase your dreams.